This is exactly how I feel too. That my wife suggested this makes it even more comfortable to me. We've already started the process of having the ceremony this coming Sept or Oct. We're not sure when exactly, but it will definitely be this year. My wife also agrees that the ring we choose should match the wedding rings we currently have.

It is good to know that someone else is in the same or similar situation. ( I am the wife) It is hard to find people around here in that type of situation too.

Same thing here. I love this and dream about living with two men, with a Lover and my current hubby.
It s also fur us the absolutely right way and it feels very good.
Kisses Mira

Well you can find a Pagan, or go to a Renn Faire and have it done there as well. We had our handfasting done by one of our friends at faire (in between our shifts no less). I basically wrote the ceremony and she tweaked it to make it better. I know there are some nice faires in Michigan, but can't remember where exactly in Michigan. >_< Any way I am start to babble a bit so I will stop. Good luck in getting the handfasting! It really is a nice experience even if you already have the commitment.

Actually you can have a handfasting recognized as a legal marriage, at least in California. I am unaware of what the legal standings are in Colorado, but it is possible that there are little legal loopholes that fall under the year and a day clause as well. Unfortunately our handfasting cannot be recognized due to other legal implications that we are well aware of. This is more of a spiritual union, recognized by all three partners involved.
Speaking historically, a handfasting was more of what we would now consider and engagement, a promise to look at compatability of two partners for a period of time, generally a year and a day. This allowed for a morepermanent marriage to occur if both parties are agreeable. As a family, we are more interested in the historical version than of current practices, as a lot of our lives revolve around historical re-enactments. We are not against the evolution of the ceremony and all of it's incarnations and religious viewpoints. The acceptance and acknoledgement that Paganism has received in the past 20 years has led to a greater understanding of nature and it's role in religion.
As for insurance and medical, there are ways to work around these things, which we are visiting as the need arises. Life insurance and wills do not ask for relationship to recipient, and health insurance is more often provided by individual work or school, as opposed to blanket insurance for whole families.
Our union was performed with a select group of friends and family present, to express our love for each other. Everyone who was involved in the ceremony is well aware of the lack of legal forms, and was with us to show their support and happiness in our expressing our love. To us, this is a true union and it did not require the legalities that our country seems to think are necessary. Of course I also beleive that marriage does not require one man and one woman either.
Living in California does have it's advantages towards openness.
On a side note, is the Rennaisance Faire still happening at the same place in the summer? I was there a few years ago and that was such a gorgeous area.