I'm in need of advice regarding my situation with my wife and our poly lifestyle. At the moment my wife is in a dyad with another man, which is great! She's very happy with him and she and I are doing great on that front. She isn't really into triads / threesomes etc of any type at the moment and prefers to do one on one relationships; that's great too! So, basically I kind of feel like a single man in the poly world, if that makes any sense, since my wife isn't into looking with me.

I'm finding it difficult because I'm basically pretty bold and so, I ask women out when I can, some of whom are open to the fact that I'm poly (I always tell them before any formal date, what's going on for me). Thing is, am I barking up the wrong tree by asking people out that I find interesting, even if they are not Poly (or don't know that they are)? LOL, I guess you can see, I'm a bit confused about how to approach things. I seem to shy away, especially, from asking out a married woman, probably because I feel strange wanting to just date her and not her and her husband. I would prefer either 2 F and myself or just 1 F; the 2 guy one girl thing isn't my bag so much (at least right now) since I'm straight.

This is strange, I feel like I have all the rights of a single man, like I was before I was married, but, things are much different, of course being married and, due to social norms etc. I'm interested, really, in forming a significant relationship but some casual fun is totally cool too, but I have to feel a connection to the person.

Does location make a difference in this regard (bigger cites and / or geographical locations)?
Do most people seek out like minded people via groups of like mind?
Have people had any success with people who were not poly before you met them?
Do women in general tend to shy away from someone in my situation?

Thanks for you input : ) BTW, I'm fairly new to the lifestyle so forgive the NOOBIE stuff :P

TL. -- Salt Lake City, UT.